Selfishness /Sebičnost

Everything we do is in fact selfish, cause everything we do we do because of us. People may have a dilemma, should I do something the way I want it to, or to put myself under the will of another man, and with it they can think the first thing is selfish while the second one isn’t. But, even when we do something someone else wants us to do, don’t we do it because of ourselves as well? Isn’t it us who decided to do so, even though if it’s just because of an urge not to defy someone, isn’t it our urge? Even when we help someone, don’t we help him because of our own desire to help, because of an urge that is inside us? Everything is selfish, which means that selfishness is not a bad thing. We just need to be selfish in a smart way and do something which we authentically want to do and also selfish in a healthy way and not to harm others in our actions. With this, I’d like to point out on a cult of altruism, which glorifies suffering for the wellbeing of someone else. That sort of an ‘altruism’ could be iconic for, lets say, Mother Teresa. I could talk about it a lot, but I’ll just say that there’s nothing altruistic in suffering for someone’s ‘well being’, that’s not altruism, that’s masochism. Altruism in fact, doesn’t deny egoism, it accompanies it, because we can be altruists only if we help someone out of our own authentic desire to help and if we feel good about it. Anything else is in fact a false altruism, a disorder.

Sve što radimo je zapravo sebično, jer sve radimo zbog sebe. Ljudi mogu imat dilemu dal da uradin nešto po svojoj volji ili se podložin volji drugoga, i pritom mogu mislit da je prvo sebično da drugo ne. Al zar i kad radimo nešto što drugi od nas želi, to ne radimo zbog sebe? Zar i kad pomažemo nekome, ne pomažemmo iz svoje želje da mu pomognemo, poriva koji je u nama? Sve je sebično, što znači da sebičnost nije loša. Samo triba bit pametno sebičan i radit ono što nam stvarno odgovara i zdravo sebičan, pa ne štetit drugima pritom. Usput bi želija da ukažen na jedan kult altruizma, koji glorificira paćenje sebe za dobro drugog. Takav bi ‘altruizam’ mogla predstavljat Majka Tereza recimo. Moga bi o tome naširoko, ali samo ću reć da nema ništa nesebično ni altruistično da patimo sebe za ¸’dobro’ drugog, to nije altruizam nego mazohizam. Zapravo, altruizam ne negira egoizam, nego ga potvrđuje, altruisti možemo bit jedino ako to radimo iz svoje lične želje i ako se dobro osjećamo prilikom pomaganja drugome. Sve drugo je lažni altruizam koji je zapravo, poremećaj.

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